Chris O'Meara APBY MARY SANCHEZmsanchez@kcstar.comThere was a time in American politics when the triad of God, guns and gays turned elections.The tagline is shorthand for conservatives’ anxiety about changing social norms and perceived threats to traditional American liberties. A sure bet to rile up the Republican base was to harp about gay people demanding marriage equality, imagined attacks upon Christianity and a call-to-arms to protect the Second Amendment. Some of that rhetoric still works.But in the aftermath of the outright slaughter of 49 LGBTQ people in Orlando, Fla., the pairing of gays and guns is beginning to take on a far different meaning. Gays and lesbians saw the murders at the Pulse nightclub as an attack on their community — one that was facilitated by easy access to guns by someone who clearly shouldn’t have had that right.The hashtag #DisarmHate began showing up in social media. It was simple step to begin seeing…Continue
hiya ladies..how are you all doing?i have a question that needs some clarification within my mind..ok..here goes.. i have commented on a discussion pertaining to bisexuality being a trend and i have commented on a discussion pertaining to the shemale and how supposed judgemental lesbians are..i'm confused here and i need some clarification if you can help.. i am a lesbian..always have been..never done men..won't ever..always just women..that's just the way i role.a black and white kinda chic with no room for inbetween.. an apple is an apple..a tree is a tree..the water is water and so forth..now you can describe the above analogies, give it color, derivatives maybe..but you cannot change the true essence of what they truly are..deep down inside to the core of it all, the apple, the tree, the water is truly just that. i was raised roman catholic..strict roman catholic with certain morals and values instilled within me when i was younger..needless to say, i didn't follow them..only…Continue
Don't get me wrong here, I'm not trolling for a FWB, but the concept sounds interesting. All the benefits of a lover......only without the love. Can it be done? Has anyone here ever been in a FWB relationship (with either a male or female)?. Is it a real situation or just a fantasy that alot of people have? I personally don't think it can be done. First of all, I just don't buy into the sex without emotion idea. If I am to the point that I am climbing into bed with someone, there is definitely going to be some emotional feeling at work, not just lust. It may not be love, but it will be alot more than "thanks alot....see ya" when the evening is over. Since the beginning of the year, I have had several people hinting (I think lol) that they would like to be FWB's, and even though at first the thought was kind of exciting, I just don't think it would work for me. But even though it might not be for me, everyone is different. Has anyone been in this situation? I'm interested in how it…Continue
Ok... has anyone ever had this dilemma? You were madly in love with someone for two years. You broke up with thembecause, they were a player. A serial cheater, narcissistic, bipolar, manic…well you get my drift.A little over one year later you still haven't quite gotten over it... you know it's stupid... the person isn't worth a second thought. But, you were almost there... about to start dating again,feeling much better about moving on without all the drama. There has been no contact for over one year... and one beautiful day you receive an email.The cloud of darkness filled the room and that familiar sick feeling hit your stomach.The email is from your X-lovers new X-GF. You have no clue how they found you but, they did. They introduce themselves and are now asking you for advice about this pathologicalcheating dog. Another thing … this broken hearted lover… well… they are not very attractive. Their picture is connected to their email, you know MSN private message. I know it…Continue
If a woman has never had sex with a man is she still a virgin? I would like to know your opinion about this. I have thought about it and can't come to a conclusion. Please give me your opinions. Thank you Continue
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Two Female Sexual Response FluidsThe two types of female sexual response fluids (cum) are clinically termed as female prostate and vaginal ejaculation fluids. The one most commonly seen in our culture is vaginal ejaculate, which lubricates the vaginal walls and oozes out during sexual arousal. Called, leukorrhea, it contains vaginal secretions from walls of the vagina. It's the vagina's natural way of cleaning itself. It is slightly acidic to keep infections away.This ejaculate comes from the Skenes glands (the glands that make up the g-spot) and bladder and is similar to prostate fluid in men. This is because the female g-spot is essentially the equivalent to the prostate in males.Female prostate / bladder ejaculate is what we are referring to when describing female ejaculate fluid and is less commonly seen in large amounts. This is not because women are not capable; rather it is due to lack of understanding of women's sexual health issues in this culture.Continue
Thank you everyone for all your answers about the g spot. I have another one. A long time ago I tried a vibrator but it was too intense for me. I have listened to all my girlfriends rant about them I would like to try it again. What suggestions can you give me?
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Definition of Sexual Fetish
First described by Sigmund Freud in 1887, sexual fetishism is a form of paraphilia where the object of affection is a specific inanimate object.
A fetish is an object, not a body part. According to psychology or psychiatric terminology there is no such thing as a 'foot fetish'. That is called a partialism. This is when a part of the body is an extremely important part to achieve sexual arousal. A shoe though, could be a fetish.
A fetish is when a person is sexually aroused by a specific object or objects and is generally unable to achieve sexual satisfaction without that object being present.
What makes a fetish 'fetishism' by definition is that it interferes with your life. It's not just something you like to do, but something you have to do. In other words, there is no other way to have an orgasm except with a shoe, bra or panties present, or whatever that person is into.
'Nothing is sacred and anything can be sexualized, from Disney characters and B-Movie monsters to baked beans, latex birthday balloons and Thanksgiving dinner. We believe in actively participating in creating our own erotic entertainment, forging new art, original literature and fluid sexual identities.
Popular assumptions about what constitutes a healthy sexual fantasy or sex life should be questioned. This does not mean that we believe that 'anything goes' or that there are no valid limits to human sexual expression.'
The evidence from evolution seems overwhelming that women have evolved a diversity of sexual strategies, all with the aim of getting the 'best' sperm based upon her position within the tribe.
Males and females do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. Not all things are black nor all things white. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories. Only the human mind invents categories and tries to force facts into separated pigeon-holes. The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. The sooner we learn this concerning human sexual behavior the sooner we shall reach a sound understanding of the realities of sex. (Alfred Kinsey, Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male, 1948)
While this may be a monogamous coupled relationship, as the research below shows, it is clear that there are many other strategies available to a woman as well.
* The shape of the penis causes it to act as sperm pump. The only explanation is to displace other male's sperm - thus it must have been common for the female to have sperm within her vagina from a variety of males.
* It is clear from evolution that the more promiscuous the female of the species is, the more 'sperm competition' strategies will evolve in the males (we have a great book on this, 'Dr Tatiana's Sex Advice to all Creation', by Olivia Judson).
Some species form such sticky / waxy semen that it becomes a plug that prevents other males fertilising the female. In human males there is also some Semen coagulation, and natural spermicide properties (to kill other male's sperm) which suggest the female was promiscuous.
Evolution, Human Reproduction & Fertilization: Semen Displacement as Sperm Competition Strategy
* Related to this, seminal fluid buffers acidity of vagina, creating more viable conditions for sperm.
Evolution and Group Sex: Successful Sex Strategy to be Last in Line
* There are benefits of multiple sex partners for sharing of diseases (and hormone function)
* By having multiple male partners the woman can confuse paternity (thus there is less chance of infanticide, males provide more help & food for raising young).
Sexual Evolution: Recent research challenges notion of Female Monogamy
* Women can have multiple orgasms (unlike men). This suggests that females evolved to have sex with a series of males in succession (which may partly explain the 'gang bang' fantasy of males).
Female Masturbation: A Variety of Techniques, Sexual Response & Multiple Orgasms
* Related to the above, children evolved to look more like their mothers (to confuse paternity). The male infanticide instinct is obviously more hostile to other male's children.
* The evolution of pornography. Males have evolved to watch other males having sex with woman, which aroused them in preparation for their turn.
* Similar to above, there is some instinct in males to masturbate in groups (waiting for turn with female).
* The woman's vagina is lubricated only at the beginning of sex. We suspect this is because seminal fluid also acts as a lubricant.
* Other primates are promiscuous. e.g. Bonobo (we need more research on this).
All in all the evidence is conclusive. Females have evolved to be promiscuous as one common strategy in their ancestry. And this diversity of behaviour is also shared by the males, creating a wonderfully rich and complex tapestry of sexual behaviours and strategies.
Sexual Evolution: Recent research challenges notion of Female Monogamy
For generations, biologists had assumed females to be naturally chaste, while males were renowned for their promiscuity. Now, hundreds of studies and a spate of books are challenging that conventional wisdom. Females of many species have evolved strategies for passing on their genes that involve copulating with multiple males - and recognition of that fact is literally changing our view of the birds and the bees.
'Natural selection, it seems, often smiles on strumpets,' says evolutionary biologist Olivia Judson, 'As a rule, loose females have more and healthier children.' ... On the surface, the conventional view made sense. Sperm seemed to come cheap to males, while eggs were expensive to females, which have to invest the time to raise offspring. ... Then came DNA paternity testing. The first and most extensive examples of polyandry were found among avian species, which was quite a shock to scientists because birds had appeared to be paragons of traditional family values.
Biologists have struggled to come up with broad theories for why females benefit from playing the field, but so far the reasons seem to vary widely according to species. A lot of complex theory boils down to this: A gal's got to do what's necessary to ensure the survival of her genes. In some cases, females may get more help around the home. In other cases, females swap sex for food - the more sex, the more food and the healthier their offspring. Promiscuity can also simply be a matter of survival. Male chimpanzees, for example, have been known to kill infants not their own. Frequent sex with several males can confuse paternity and act as insurance against harm to her offspring.
Females of many species have sex with multiple partners. Males, in turn, have adapted ways to ensure that their genes, and not those of competitors, are passed on. Understanding this co-evolution is changing our view of male and female sex roles.