Oh wow, what a topic! Samantha, I'm definitely no expert, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but here goes.
Friend: Would you have sex with him or in-vitro with his sperm? Either way, there would be a father out there that you know (and knows you). If you wanted to raise the child without his help or input, that may cause problems later on. Even if he agrees and understands that he is just a sperm donor, his fatherly instincts may not allow him to just walk away and forget a child that is half his, and unless you keep it a secret, there would be grandparents who might want a say in the babies upbringing. My opinion? This would not be the way to go.
Sperm bank: Hmmmmmm interesting. If I understand it correctly, you can kinda choose what kind of sperm you want implanted. Blonde? Tall? Smart? Athletic? The choices are there, but you are still dealing with mother nature, so there are no guarantees, but the joy of being pregnant and giving birth are something that I dream about, so this gets a thumbs up!
Adopt: There are so many babies out there that have no future that I cry when I think about it. I'm not a fan of either Angelina Jolie or Madonna, but I truly believe that they adopt all those kids out of pure love, so they get my respect! This gets another thumbs up, but adopting has it downside also. It is a long, drawn out process that doesn't always end happily. The babies sometimes have problems that go beyond what you can handle. I have friends that are suffering through that situation right now, but again, in life there are no guarantees. If it were me, I think I would seriously consider the sperm bank route, but please, give all your options alot of thought. Just the fact that you are thinking about this is soooooooo sweet. Good luck, and keep us informed. Tina
I agree with Tina, I have two friends who went the friend route. They later broke up. The father jumped into the custody fight and they ended up with a huge nasty mess and big legal bills. While there are lots of guys out there willing to jump in to "help", I would only resort to that if all else failed.
Both the sperm bank and adoption have their good points. I think this is something you and your partner need to sit down and weigh which is best for your situation. There is not a single right answer for everyone.
I have to agree with tina, if you adopt, then break up latter, its a big huge mess when theres a child involved. I love children, but in my opinion it is better for tham no to even be involved in a legal thing like devorce. I think you can love children and not have one. I have Nieces and Nephews, I love them all, just as they are my own, but yet I don't have the legal obligation i would have with my own. This is a very tough one. Sperm banks, and surrogrets have good and bad points, as does everthing. just do your homework. I can't decied 4 u, all I can do is give my advice.
Pray about it. Matthew 1 verses 5, 6.
Etymology / Definition of Masturbation The word masturbation is derived from the Greek word mezea ('penises') and the Latin verb masturbare ('to defile by hand or to disturb by hand'). Masturbation can be defined as deliberate self stimulation of ones genitals. As the etymology of the word suggests, hands are generally used to arouse the sexual organs which may result in orgasm. Men may fondle or stroke their penis with their hand or touch other erroneous zones (like the scrotum or anus). Women often rub the vulva, or gently stroke the clitoris and the minor lips (labia minora). Some women simultaneously play with the nipples of their breasts. Instead of using their hands, both males and females may also rub their genitals against some object, such as a pillow. Some females can reach orgasm by riding a bicycle or a horse. Masturbation commonly refers to sexual activities done alone (autoeroticism), but can be a sexual act between people. This is referred to as mutual masturbation, where one person stimulates their own genitals or their partners. Many people find the sight of their partner masturbating highly erotic.
There are many special masturbation aids on the market. The most common of these is the artificial penis, also known as a dildo (from the Italian diletto - "delight"). Dildos can be made of wood, rubber, plastic or glass. Vibrators are also popular sex toys. They are like dildos, but battery powered or electric. Great for masturbation as well as partner sex play. Babeland have a great selection of sex toys. Watching pornography, reading erotica or cultivating sexual fantasies are common aids to masturbate. Humans are not the only animals to masturbate. Many other mammals have been known to masturbate in the wild and in captivity. Female Masturbation Techniques There are many different techniques women may employ to masturbate. Through experimentation, a personal preference may be found which gives that particular woman the most exquisite pleasure. Some common techniques are: *Inserting one or more fingers into the vagina to stroke the frontal wall of the vagina where the g-spot is located. * Stroking the clitoris and / or massaging the breasts. * In the bathtub or shower, using warm running water to stimulate the clitoris. * Lying face down and straddling a pillow (or something similar) and rubbing the vulva and clitoris against it. * Standing up, the corner of an item of furniture, or even a washing machine, can be used to stimulate the genitals. * Some women can orgasm by crossing their legs tightly and clenching the pelvic or leg muscles, which creates pressure and enhances blood flow to the genitals. Techniques, Sexual Response & Multiple Orgasms From the website: 'Women commonly masturbate by rubbing or applying pressure to the clitoris, mons, lips of the vagina, or some combination of these areas. The methods by which they do this varies greatly. Fingers or other devices may be used to rub the shaft of the clitoris in an up-and-down motion on either or both sides, or the shaft may be rubbed in a circular fashion. The vaginal lips may be gently pulled; this movement of the inner lips causes the loose skin covering the clitoris to move back and forth, creating a pleasurable sensation. Because the glans of the clitoris is highly sensitive, prolonged stimulation usually becomes irritating, and thus it is not often used as the focus of masturbation. Relatively few women (some sexologists estimate about 20%) insert anything into their vaginas while masturbating. Those who do usually insert just barely into the opening. However, some women completely insert fingers, dildos, vibrators, and other objects, such as bananas and cucumbers, during masturbation. All these methods may involve the use of various kinds of lubricants, and many women stimulate their breasts while stimulating their genitals. Some women use washcloths, clothing, pillows, furs, silks, or other such devices to aid their stimulation. Most women prefer lying on their backs, but some prefer standing or sitting. While standing or sitting, a woman may rub against certain objects, such as doorknobs, dresser drawer pulls, the edge of chairs, or bedposts. The woman may cross her legs and increase the pressure on her genitals by contracting her lower abdominal, gluteal, and thigh muscles. Water massages may be used. Some women derive sexual stimulation while riding a bicycle or a horse, activities that were at one time forbidden to women for that very reason. Female sexual response to masturbation is about the same as for males. Some women have reported orgasm 30 seconds from the start of self-stimulation, while the usual time is a little less than four minutes. Because of a woman's ability to have multiple orgasms, she may maintain her threshold of orgasm far longer than a man. ... When mutual masturbation is employed during intercourse, it may greatly enhance sexual response; some women report that they receive more intense pleasure from masturbation either by themselves or by their partner than they do from coitus, especially if their partner is a male who has only slight potency. This is because the clitoris receives little direct stimulation during pelvic thrusting in the missionary position.'
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Definition of Sexual Fetish
First described by Sigmund Freud in 1887, sexual fetishism is a form of paraphilia where the object of affection is a specific inanimate object.
A fetish is an object, not a body part. According to psychology or psychiatric terminology there is no such thing as a 'foot fetish'. That is called a partialism. This is when a part of the body is an extremely important part to achieve sexual arousal. A shoe though, could be a fetish.
A fetish is when a person is sexually aroused by a specific object or objects and is generally unable to achieve sexual satisfaction without that object being present.
What makes a fetish 'fetishism' by definition is that it interferes with your life. It's not just something you like to do, but something you have to do. In other words, there is no other way to have an orgasm except with a shoe, bra or panties present, or whatever that person is into.
'Nothing is sacred and anything can be sexualized, from Disney characters and B-Movie monsters to baked beans, latex birthday balloons and Thanksgiving dinner. We believe in actively participating in creating our own erotic entertainment, forging new art, original literature and fluid sexual identities.
Popular assumptions about what constitutes a healthy sexual fantasy or sex life should be questioned. This does not mean that we believe that 'anything goes' or that there are no valid limits to human sexual expression.'