I believe in the saying you're straight until you aren't

I work with this girl and we're pretty close and I have feelings for her. They get in the way and make me act funny sometimes. I want to see if I can get her interested. I believe in the saying 'you're straight until you aren't'. I'm going to see if I can make her have any kind of feelings for me. This probably sounds crazy but she already loves me as a friend and we have a connection. Any advice as to how to make her interested? First I'm going to be unavailable and not give her attention but still be charming, and go from there.

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Aspen are you Lesbian or bisexual and does she know?
I am bisexual and she doesn't know.

Thanks Michelle I agree with you. Because we work together I am being very cautious.
Thanks for the advice she says she is straight. I am shy and have never asked anyone out before. Maybe I shouldnt make my first attempt with someone I work with.
We got into a discussion about it and she said she was curious what it would be like to have sex with a woman. I ask her if she thought she could fall in love with a woman and have a relationship and she said no so I gave up because we work together.

Do you think I did the right thing Angie?
If you really like this woman all things are possible. Mixing work with pleasure is what should be considered first and foremost. If your job is very important to you I would maybe go out with this woman for drinks a few times and be her friend and just talk. You get to earn her trust and get to know her outside of the work environment.
I use to only date only straight women when I was coming out and several were from work. We would all go out for drinks with the guys and somehow I would always end up with the woman I wanted to be with at her apartment or mine. We would sip wine and I would start off by saying your neck looks stiff do you want a massage? Most people don't decline a massage especially after drinks.... It is very important to know how they like to be massaged, soft, strong, medium, the point is to make them comfortable... always ask them what kind of lotion or oil they like used and talk to them while you are giving the massage... you go from the neck and ask if they would like their shoulders done and ask them lay on their stomach that you would like to work on their back because their muscles are so tight then the feet... once you get to their feet you pretty much have them. To do their back they have to remove their shirt and then skirt and pantyhose. Massaging the thighs and gluts are normally saved for last and is a very delicate process because, you are now moving other parts of their body as well and at this point she is wet and so are you. make sure you are straddling her back side being careful not to sit on her too hard, but that she still feels the heat coming from your body.
You make your move from here, normally seeing how close they let you get to the hot spot queues you in to touching with your hand and then with your tongue.
From experience, a woman, alcohol, and a wonderful massage always worked for me... but, every step of the way I asked for permission to go further. It was their Idea…
I didn't have any problems with the women at work... actually I was in my 20’s and very popular with the straight women... But, you never know and most women when sober would say they wouldn't do things they would most surely feel free to do when tipsy.
I personally wouldn't call it playing games... simply because, straight woman really are confused about bisexuality, drinking normally makes that confusion go away.
I never thought of it as taking advantage of anyone because; they all came back for more and they were all grown adult women. However, I made friends with them first and never made them feel pushed or threatened.
I do wish you luck... She would be a very lucky lady to have you!
We had our talk about being with girls and now she wants to try it with no strings attatched. I think this would be trouble for me. What do you think Angie?

I say go for it.

Be careful, of course, but go for it.

Would you rather try to go for her and in the long run have her in the end?

Or in the long run just sit there and think what if?

You know what I mean?

Angie has a good point. Really good points, actually.


I just say go for it if you really, really feel right about this girl.

You don't want to make the mistake of not going after her and regret it later..

That's not the best feeling in the world to dwell on, lemme tell you what.


Good luck, Aspen.

You deserve nothing but the best and I hope that's what she is. (:

We kissed for the first time Kendall but now I am really afraid because we work together. What should I do now?



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