My best girlfriend and I spend a lot of time together even though we both have partners. We got into an interesting conversation about masturbation and watching erotic movies. We both enjoy doing this. Then she suggested that we watch and play at the same time with no touching each other.

The conversation then went to would this be cheating. We have a different opinion about this.

My question is would you consider this cheating. 



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If you both would do it in front of your partners, then no. But if your keeping it from them ya. And would you be ok with your partner doing the same with their best friend!!!!!!

It would depend on the "terms engagement" you each have in your relationship with your partners. 

I viewed the replys ladies and to me it's still cheating its sharing with someone else a leve of intimacy that unless agreed upon by your partner that is crossing a line even with out touch. After all if I preform sexual favors on someone else but don't let them, does that mean they are the only one cheating?

No, I do not.  You're not even touching each other, just having fun.  Honestly, I don't know how you keep your hands off each other.  I am so turned on just reading this.  Get back to me and let me know what happens.

My partner thinks that masturbating and watching porn by myself is cheating. I dont agree and do it anyway.

Does anyone else think this is cheating?

I personally don't see doing a solo, as cheating if your partner is unable to satisfy you for a spell. If it offends the partner, I wouldn't do it. It can help keep you from walking out if you have a partner that withholds intimacy from you to control the relationship. I prefer intimacy and giving pleasure, so solo acts are not my preference. Porn helps some but, there really isn't beauty in most porn it's dry and prepacked regardless of the talent, premise or scenario, plus the music is stale.

Hello Ladies,
Good afternoon to all my puddygirl friends. I don't think masturbating which is what this sounds like is cheating.
Pleasuring yourself is considered by many quite a few different things but not cheating. You weren't having sex with each other so how did you cheat? And many think that two women having sex if they have male partners which is the standard socially also isn't cheating. If you have a partner regardless of gender and you actually have sex with another partner outside your relationship whether they be male or female then you are cheating. Its still sex girls.
So it sounds like to me that all you two are doing is having a little fun in each other's company. Perhaps you are questioning whether you want to take it to the next level. Think about it and think it through as there are always consequences.
vinnigirl aka pokerdogv aka VinJan N

Thank you for your comments. I think so far most think it would not be cheating. I am still not sure.


Now we are talking about web cam to web cam. Do you think that would be cheating.





To be perfectly honest with you I personally would not engage in such behavior, even if my partner was in agreement. Some may call me a prude, but I am pretty old school when it comes to 'sharing' myself with others. To each their own of course, but this definitely would not be for me :-)

My partner and I think it is cheating; if you have a partner you should be faithful to them.  Being with someone else watching an erotic flick and masturbating crosses that line.  


Etymology / Definition of Masturbation The word masturbation is derived from the Greek word mezea ('penises') and the Latin verb masturbare ('to defile by hand or to disturb by hand'). Masturbation can be defined as deliberate self stimulation of ones genitals. As the etymology of the word suggests, hands are generally used to arouse the sexual organs which may result in orgasm. Men may fondle or stroke their penis with their hand or touch other erroneous zones (like the scrotum or anus). Women often rub the vulva, or gently stroke the clitoris and the minor lips (labia minora). Some women simultaneously play with the nipples of their breasts. Instead of using their hands, both males and females may also rub their genitals against some object, such as a pillow. Some females can reach orgasm by riding a bicycle or a horse. Masturbation commonly refers to sexual activities done alone (autoeroticism), but can be a sexual act between people. This is referred to as mutual masturbation, where one person stimulates their own genitals or their partners. Many people find the sight of their partner masturbating highly erotic. visit


There are many special masturbation aids on the market. The most common of these is the artificial penis, also known as a dildo (from the Italian diletto - "delight"). Dildos can be made of wood, rubber, plastic or glass. Vibrators are also popular sex toys. They are like dildos, but battery powered or electric. Great for masturbation as well as partner sex play. Babeland have a great selection of sex toys. Watching pornography, reading erotica or cultivating sexual fantasies are common aids to masturbate. Humans are not the only animals to masturbate. Many other mammals have been known to masturbate in the wild and in captivity. Female Masturbation Techniques There are many different techniques women may employ to masturbate. Through experimentation, a personal preference may be found which gives that particular woman the most exquisite pleasure. Some common techniques are: *Inserting one or more fingers into the vagina to stroke the frontal wall of the vagina where the g-spot is located. * Stroking the clitoris and / or massaging the breasts. * In the bathtub or shower, using warm running water to stimulate the clitoris. * Lying face down and straddling a pillow (or something similar) and rubbing the vulva and clitoris against it. * Standing up, the corner of an item of furniture, or even a washing machine, can be used to stimulate the genitals. * Some women can orgasm by crossing their legs tightly and clenching the pelvic or leg muscles, which creates pressure and enhances blood flow to the genitals. Techniques, Sexual Response & Multiple Orgasms From the website: 'Women commonly masturbate by rubbing or applying pressure to the clitoris, mons, lips of the vagina, or some combination of these areas. The methods by which they do this varies greatly. Fingers or other devices may be used to rub the shaft of the clitoris in an up-and-down motion on either or both sides, or the shaft may be rubbed in a circular fashion. The vaginal lips may be gently pulled; this movement of the inner lips causes the loose skin covering the clitoris to move back and forth, creating a pleasurable sensation. Because the glans of the clitoris is highly sensitive, prolonged stimulation usually becomes irritating, and thus it is not often used as the focus of masturbation. Relatively few women (some sexologists estimate about 20%) insert anything into their vaginas while masturbating. Those who do usually insert just barely into the opening. However, some women completely insert fingers, dildos, vibrators, and other objects, such as bananas and cucumbers, during masturbation. All these methods may involve the use of various kinds of lubricants, and many women stimulate their breasts while stimulating their genitals. Some women use washcloths, clothing, pillows, furs, silks, or other such devices to aid their stimulation. Most women prefer lying on their backs, but some prefer standing or sitting. While standing or sitting, a woman may rub against certain objects, such as doorknobs, dresser drawer pulls, the edge of chairs, or bedposts. The woman may cross her legs and increase the pressure on her genitals by contracting her lower abdominal, gluteal, and thigh muscles. Water massages may be used. Some women derive sexual stimulation while riding a bicycle or a horse, activities that were at one time forbidden to women for that very reason. Female sexual response to masturbation is about the same as for males. Some women have reported orgasm 30 seconds from the start of self-stimulation, while the usual time is a little less than four minutes. Because of a woman's ability to have multiple orgasms, she may maintain her threshold of orgasm far longer than a man. ... When mutual masturbation is employed during intercourse, it may greatly enhance sexual response; some women report that they receive more intense pleasure from masturbation either by themselves or by their partner than they do from coitus, especially if their partner is a male who has only slight potency. This is because the clitoris receives little direct stimulation during pelvic thrusting in the missionary position.'



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