I’m a married woman with a grown-up family. However, deep down I know I’m a lesbian. To test myself, I went on a date with a lesbian escort recently and the sex was amazing. I went to the same agency again and this time I was with a different woman. Same reaction.
Now I am totally confused. I would like to live my life as a lesbian, but I don’t want to hurt my husband and family. I have fancied women all my life, but suppressed these feelings and now I am ready to burst.
I can’t really afford to keep going to escorts, plus I would love to have a girlfriend to share my life with.
What should I do?
Coming out will shock people and it’ll break your husband’s heart – there’s no way around it I’m afraid. However, you’ve been living a lie for many, many years and you
need to be who you are.
You’ve spent a long time protecting your family and doing what everyone else wants, but now you need to think about what you want. I hate to be the voice of doom, but it would be sad if you left it so late that the opportunity passes you by.
The people who genuinely love you will always love you and they’ll probably be more upset that you didn’t tell them years ago. The ones that judge you for it aren’t true friends and you don’t need them in your life.
Of course, your husband will be devastated and I feel for him, too, but once he’s had time to come to terms with it, hopefully he’ll see that he now has the opportunity to meet someone he deserves and who wants to be with him 100%.
I had a friend who was married with kids and after years of marriage she left her husband for another woman. Initially, it did cause a lot of heartache, but in the end they were all able to be good friends and he went on to find happiness with another woman.