Men have some serious limitations. They are often clueless and emotionally unavailable. Their nature is to love themselves more than anyone else. Its a natural selfishness. They are often quite sensitive for themselves but not for others.
This is how they drive women into the nurturing arms of other women. Only a woman knows what a womans needs are. Women are far more giving than men and contribute more to a relationship. Overall, I think a relationship with a woman would be far more gratifying than one with a man. What do you think, ladies?
I think we should all use our intuition when picking partners male, female or otherwise. If the right person is matched with you, you will have a great relationship. That relationship will still have tests and trials, however you will have the foundation to handle any difficulties because you know for sure that this is the person you should be with.
When it comes to intuition - i.e. what the universe wants for you - the person you pick may still hurt you and you them. What the universe wants for you is to grow. It is not necessarily concerned with our happiness because when you grow, you get closer to becoming who you are meant to be.
So be careful ladies and listen to your inner voice.
Thats true in a very general sense. However, I'm talking about problems that are specific to men. A great majority of men do have the specific character flaws that I've outlined in my post. Thats not to say there are no self involved insensitive women out there or that there aren't some highly sensitive and nurturing men, but these are the exceptions rather than the the rule.
I agree with you Michelle I have been with men that are as nice and sweet as anyone and women who are clueless and emotionally unavailale as anyone. We shouldnt put anyone in a category just because they are male, female, white, black, asian, hispanic, sexual preference or whatever.
I totally disagree with some of this. I was not driven into the arms of a woman because men are who they are. I love women because I love everything about them. I connect with women, I love being sexual with women. I did not love that with men. I did not connect with men. I have great male friends and I can work with them very well, but I know some men who are great, they treat their wives great and there is not a problem. Having relationship with a woman does not depend on what you don't get from a man. It depends on what you find you need and if a woman connects and fills your needs. Love is genderless, and love and trust are what make the relationship work, not a preference.
Just my opinion,
I think it is both nature and nurture. As I said in the intro, many women are driven into the loving, nurturing arms of other women by men . No man can ever be as giving, loving and nurturing as a woman. I myself am married to a man. I'm talking from personal experience. If I had to guess I would say its a combination of genetic pre -disposition and personal experiences.
Etymology / Definition of Masturbation The word masturbation is derived from the Greek word mezea ('penises') and the Latin verb masturbare ('to defile by hand or to disturb by hand'). Masturbation can be defined as deliberate self stimulation of ones genitals. As the etymology of the word suggests, hands are generally used to arouse the sexual organs which may result in orgasm. Men may fondle or stroke their penis with their hand or touch other erroneous zones (like the scrotum or anus). Women often rub the vulva, or gently stroke the clitoris and the minor lips (labia minora). Some women simultaneously play with the nipples of their breasts. Instead of using their hands, both males and females may also rub their genitals against some object, such as a pillow. Some females can reach orgasm by riding a bicycle or a horse. Masturbation commonly refers to sexual activities done alone (autoeroticism), but can be a sexual act between people. This is referred to as mutual masturbation, where one person stimulates their own genitals or their partners. Many people find the sight of their partner masturbating highly erotic.
There are many special masturbation aids on the market. The most common of these is the artificial penis, also known as a dildo (from the Italian diletto - "delight"). Dildos can be made of wood, rubber, plastic or glass. Vibrators are also popular sex toys. They are like dildos, but battery powered or electric. Great for masturbation as well as partner sex play. Babeland have a great selection of sex toys. Watching pornography, reading erotica or cultivating sexual fantasies are common aids to masturbate. Humans are not the only animals to masturbate. Many other mammals have been known to masturbate in the wild and in captivity. Female Masturbation Techniques There are many different techniques women may employ to masturbate. Through experimentation, a personal preference may be found which gives that particular woman the most exquisite pleasure. Some common techniques are: *Inserting one or more fingers into the vagina to stroke the frontal wall of the vagina where the g-spot is located. * Stroking the clitoris and / or massaging the breasts. * In the bathtub or shower, using warm running water to stimulate the clitoris. * Lying face down and straddling a pillow (or something similar) and rubbing the vulva and clitoris against it. * Standing up, the corner of an item of furniture, or even a washing machine, can be used to stimulate the genitals. * Some women can orgasm by crossing their legs tightly and clenching the pelvic or leg muscles, which creates pressure and enhances blood flow to the genitals. Techniques, Sexual Response & Multiple Orgasms From the website: 'Women commonly masturbate by rubbing or applying pressure to the clitoris, mons, lips of the vagina, or some combination of these areas. The methods by which they do this varies greatly. Fingers or other devices may be used to rub the shaft of the clitoris in an up-and-down motion on either or both sides, or the shaft may be rubbed in a circular fashion. The vaginal lips may be gently pulled; this movement of the inner lips causes the loose skin covering the clitoris to move back and forth, creating a pleasurable sensation. Because the glans of the clitoris is highly sensitive, prolonged stimulation usually becomes irritating, and thus it is not often used as the focus of masturbation. Relatively few women (some sexologists estimate about 20%) insert anything into their vaginas while masturbating. Those who do usually insert just barely into the opening. However, some women completely insert fingers, dildos, vibrators, and other objects, such as bananas and cucumbers, during masturbation. All these methods may involve the use of various kinds of lubricants, and many women stimulate their breasts while stimulating their genitals. Some women use washcloths, clothing, pillows, furs, silks, or other such devices to aid their stimulation. Most women prefer lying on their backs, but some prefer standing or sitting. While standing or sitting, a woman may rub against certain objects, such as doorknobs, dresser drawer pulls, the edge of chairs, or bedposts. The woman may cross her legs and increase the pressure on her genitals by contracting her lower abdominal, gluteal, and thigh muscles. Water massages may be used. Some women derive sexual stimulation while riding a bicycle or a horse, activities that were at one time forbidden to women for that very reason. Female sexual response to masturbation is about the same as for males. Some women have reported orgasm 30 seconds from the start of self-stimulation, while the usual time is a little less than four minutes. Because of a woman's ability to have multiple orgasms, she may maintain her threshold of orgasm far longer than a man. ... When mutual masturbation is employed during intercourse, it may greatly enhance sexual response; some women report that they receive more intense pleasure from masturbation either by themselves or by their partner than they do from coitus, especially if their partner is a male who has only slight potency. This is because the clitoris receives little direct stimulation during pelvic thrusting in the missionary position.'
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Definition of Sexual Fetish
First described by Sigmund Freud in 1887, sexual fetishism is a form of paraphilia where the object of affection is a specific inanimate object.
A fetish is an object, not a body part. According to psychology or psychiatric terminology there is no such thing as a 'foot fetish'. That is called a partialism. This is when a part of the body is an extremely important part to achieve sexual arousal. A shoe though, could be a fetish.
A fetish is when a person is sexually aroused by a specific object or objects and is generally unable to achieve sexual satisfaction without that object being present.
What makes a fetish 'fetishism' by definition is that it interferes with your life. It's not just something you like to do, but something you have to do. In other words, there is no other way to have an orgasm except with a shoe, bra or panties present, or whatever that person is into.